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Everyone has needs. This is primarily one of the reasons people seek out other people and build relationships, hoping the right person will come and fill their hearts’ desires. However, when things go south and needs aren’t met, people have different ways of coping with this disparity.

Are you one to constantly seek clarity in your relationship?

Perhaps you’re easily confused about your needs and whether or not they’re being adequately met. Or are you just not entirely reassured that your relationship is going in the direction you hope it will?

If you’re experiencing any or both of these, it doesn’t automatically mean you’re in the wrong hands. Often, this only means you need to brush up on your communication skills and be able to effectively convey what you need to your partner.

“If you are feeling uncertainty about a relationship, it’s important that you address the reasons for those feelings. Usually, it’s your gut telling you there are unresolved problems.” – Jonathan Bennet, Dating Expert.

What Is Clarity in a Relationship?

“Am I truly happy?”

If you ever find yourself asking this, then you, too, have experienced seeking clarity in your relationship. Clarity in the sense that you’re not out there asking if it’s time to end but rather taking a pause to reevaluate where you are in your connection.

The whole premise of the question might send alarms blaring in your head.

After all, questioning your happiness within the relationship might already be enough grounds to end it. However, such a question may only be prompted when clarity is needed. This need arises when problems are at play, and partners seek solutions. Hence, this doesn’t necessarily merit a breakup. Instead, when you’re seeking clarity in your relationship, you’re only looking to understand it deeper to address problems suitably.

When people are confused in their relationships, they have only two options: resolve the confusion through communication or let it mature.

Those who are able to communicate honestly and effectively are the few lucky ones seemingly born with a natural gift. They’re able to tell precisely what they’re experiencing and what their partner can do to help, pushing the relationship to better ground. On the other hand, there are those who struggle to even find their words and get easily overwhelmed by their emotions. They wish to resolve their problems, but the moment they’re given the opportunity, they lose grip on what they want to convey.

If you’re part of the latter group, The Love I Thought I Knew by Donald Marcus Welch is the perfect material for you.

The Love I Thought I Knew by Donald Marcus Welch

According to the author, The Love I Thought I Knew is a book based on loyalty—the ultimate foundation of a strong relationship. Donald Marcus Welch has written the book as a self-help book to help people make sense of their relationships and the challenges they’ve gone through and will still encounter.

The Love I Thought I Knew is a guidebook that helps people improve their communication skills and address factors that often hinder and stump their relationship growth.

Doubling as a life and inspirational material, The Love I Thought I Knew doesn’t only discuss specific problems concerning relationships. Instead, author Donald Marcus Welch has also written different perspectives, sources, and resolutions to provide his readers with a comprehensive look at relationships. The book not only teaches people how to effectively communicate as a primary solution to relationship issues. It also shows them what causes these deterrents to their communication skills.

The Love I Thought I Knew helps you uncover why you don’t feel so certain about your relationship. The guide that Donald Marcus Welch has written will help you realize what you need and how you should communicate it to your partner so that it doesn’t incite more problems between you. It’s a guidebook toward better navigating and handling relationships, as complicated as it is.

Gradually but steadily, problems will be resolved and any uncertainty you’re feeling towards your partner will start to fall away.

The primary method highlighted throughout the book is communication.

For starters, here are some questions to ask yourself or your partner to gain more clarity in your relationship:

How Often Do I Feel This Way?

When it comes to uncertainty, the best way to start unraveling the problem is by asking how often the question or doubt creeps into your head. Is it fleeting? Does it follow after a big argument? Or do you constantly lie awake at night thinking about it?

It’s important to answer this because it can help determine the next best move. If you constantly think about it, always weighing the pros and cons, then it’s likely that you’re not fully on board in the relationship, and you may be happier away from it.

Does This Have a Pattern?

Aside from its frequency, look into your doubt’s pattern. Do you only think about it when you’re overwhelmed at work? If this is the case, you’re likely only reacting to the stressor and allowing it to impact your relationship.

This doesn’t mean you’re in a bad connection. But maybe it’s time to recalibrate and consider how much you’re allowing your work to mess up your mind.

Are We Working Together?

Often, problems seem not to end because you’re the only one resolving them. Take a pause and look into your partner’s effort to address problems and make amends after arguments. Look into the balance and evaluate whether you’re okay with it or not.

If you have any issues with how you’re going about these problems as a couple, then do what Donald Marcus Welch has written in The Love I Thought I Knew and communicate it honestly. For more tips on addressing problems better and gaining clarity about your relationship, grab a copy of Donald Marcus Welch’s book now.